How To Be Popular — When You’re An Introvert

If you’re introverted, it can seem like it’s impossible to be popular, because the common perception is that it’s the extroverts that are popular.

But it’s possible to be massively popular as an introvert in any situation you find yourself in, including a job interview.

So today I’m going to show you how to be hugely popular when you’re an introvert, and at the same time how to nail any interview.

There are 5 parts to it, but before we get into it, when you’re looking for work, remember that the best way to nail any interview is when the hiring manager interviewing you knows you’re a good candidate for the job.

The way to do that is to use Connectzapp.

The way it works is you enter the details of the job you’d like. You’re then given a list of jobs that match the job you’re after that are ranked in order with the best matched job for you at the top.

You then swipe through each job, choose the ones you like the best, put them into your shortlist and then contact those companies directly.

It’s quick. It’s easy. And the best part is the hiring managers at each company can see you’re a good match for the job so they want to talk to you.

So go to or get the app on the App Store or Google Play, and get companies chasing you for a change!

Give it a try.

Ok, so let’s go through the 5 parts to being massively popular, even when you’re an introvert.

1. Direct Praise Towards Others

The first part is to direct praise towards others.

When you find you’re receiving praise for something you’ve done or said or achieved, if you talk about the people who helped you do it, the person you’re talking to thinks you’re being humble and down to earth, which makes them like you more.

If you can’t redirect praise to someone else then use humour to lightly make fun of the question, so the person asking it sees your humility and how down to earth you are.

Most experts agree that there is no such thing as being too humble, however sometimes low self esteem can mask itself as being humble. And low self esteem can make someone unable to be proud of their accomplishments.

As CS Lewis once said, humility is not thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking of yourself less.

If you’re receiving praise, the most charismatic thing to do is not to duck and weave and not accept the compliment.

It’s to thank the person for making the compliments, tell them you appreciate their comments and then redirect some of the praise to others.

So it’s not about lowering yourself, it’s about elevating others.

So when you’re in an interview, or any situation where you receive a compliment, thank the person for their compliment, tell them you appreciate their comments and then praise others for their help.

2. Have A Zen Like Presence

Part 2 is to have a Zen like presence.

What I mean by this is to be calm and stay composed, even when you’re feeling stressed or nervous about the situation you’re in, like an interview.

However, being calm and composed won’t necessarily win over your audience or the person you’re speaking to, on it’s own, so to win over your audience or the person you’re speaking to, a great strategy is to punctuate a point you make in the conversation by getting excited like an extrovert and maybe using hand gestures to emphasize the point you’re making.

This shows the person you’re speaking to you’re genuinely engaged and enthusiastic about the subject you’re speaking about.

3. Use Enthusiastic Hand Gestures

Part 3 is to use enthusiastic hand gestures.

When you’re interested in the topic you’re talking about, use your hands to punctuate your points.

A great way to get someone’s interest in what you’re about to say is to rub your hands together and smile just a bit.

Most people take this as you’re about to make a really important or juicy point in the conversation.

When you do this, you’ll have the full attention of the people listening to you.

So in an interview situation, use your hands to particularly accentuate the points you want the hiring manager to get.

4. Embrace That You Are Introverted

The fourth part is to embrace that you’re introverted.

Most introverts tend to talk about how things felt or feel, as opposed to extroverts who tend to talk about how things look or hear when they explain something.

I’m getting into some NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming here which is a whole subject on it’s own, so I won’t go into that here.

But if there is one thing most introverts should make a conscious effort to do, particularly in an interview, is to hold good eye contact with the person they’re speaking to.

Introverts, by their nature, tend to stare off into the distance or look down when they speak. However, if you can make a conscious effort to hold eye contact with the person you’re in a conversation with while you’re speaking to them, then that person will feel you’re more engaged in the conversation and feel like they connected with you more afterwards.

5. Be Generous

And the fifth part is to be generous.

Be generous of yourself and your time.

Most introverts tend to be scared to engage too much with others. However, by being giving of yourself and your time, people get to see the real you and at the same time appreciate you for what you’re doing, at the same time.

This attracts people to you.

So there are the 5 parts to being popular when you’re an introvert.

1. Direct Praise Towards Others

2. Have A Zen Like Presence

3. Use Enthusiastic Hand gestures

4. Embrace That You’re Introverted

5. Be Generous

Give them a try.

You’ll find people respond positively to you, and if you embrace these 5 things in an interview, the hiring manager will come out of the interview with a more positive opinion of you, or maybe they’ll just offer you the job!

And lastly…

Good luck with your job hunting!

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